Slippery When Wet

When you think of lube what do you think of.. Someone having anal sex? A lady/woman who doesn't produce as much lubrication as she/you would like? Self pleasure? Going to have a PAP test? To make tampon use easier? To keep condoms from breaking? To enhance sensation when using condoms? Or simply to try something different? Most people do not realize that there are many lubricant options available that can be used for a variety of activities.

Everyone Knows the usual lubes available at your local pharmacy, Target, Wall-Mart, Costco, or grocery store. Yes, these are ok to use, but maybe its to thick, to stick, doesn't last long, its irritating, it stains your bed sheets. There are more options thank KY, Astroglide, and Trojan brand lube. Don't limit yourself to your local store that has whatever available.

By the end of this read I hope that you get an idea of the choices available to you.

Pjur USA: Uses premium quality products to produce their lubricant, it is hypoallergenic and condom safe. It is available in Original:silicone lubricant, Light: uses the lightest silicone available. Power: thick water-based silicone cream formula.

Liquid Silk: Water based lubricant, also conditions the skin doesn't leave the tacky feeling. Also designed to reduce the amount of tearing that occurs during intercourse. It also aids in stoping the spread in bacteria, fungal spores, and yeast infections.

Pink Silicone Lubricant for Women: Moisturizing lubricant for women and is good to aid in the use tampons. It comes in a fancy Italian glass bottle and an easy to use pump bottle. this product is Hypoallergenic, contains Vitamin E and Aloe Vera, and washes off easy.

System JO: This brand carries a variety of lines that are a great quality and they have something for just about everyone. some Choose from JO Premium, JO H20, JO for Women, Jo Flavored H20 Lubricants.

Slippery Stuff: This lube is tasteless and odorless. It is very thick and is excellent for anal sex or anal play.

SwissNavy: Thin and silky high grade lubricant that does not stain and lasts long.

These are just a few options available, next time you are at the story try something new. Look for new resources to buy lube like GoodVibrations online (or in the store) or directly from the brand. Experiment and enjoy.

Remember. Silicone lubes should not be used on silicone sex toys as they may break down the silicone texture of the toy. Also when using condoms with lube only use a few drops; too much may cause the condom to slip. Use thick lube during anal sex and make sure to be generous the anus has no natural lubrication. Also, remember just because you use, want, or need more lubrication than you naturally produce does not make one inadequate.

Enjoy.

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Labiaplasty the latest trend in extreme plastic surgery.

Flowers are beautiful they come in all sizes, shapes, and colors. Like humans, no two flowers are alike. Flowers are a plants reproductive organ. If you ever take time to look flowers resemble the female vulva in many ways. They have a little bulb like area near the top that are similar to the clitoris in shape and positioning, they have petals that surround the flower that are similar to that of labia. Sometimes when you look at flowers it can be almost as arousing as looking at genitals.



This topic is especially for the Ladies but men should read this also. I have noticed lately that women have been putting themselves through unneeded body modification; cosmetic plastic surgery. There was a time when breast implants were a far leap but that was the new thing women were doing to make themselves more beautiful or more acceptable by society. Yes some women did it to feel sexier or for an increase in self-esttem, and there are women some do it as a result of a loss of their breast. Then suddenly women started to appear with what seemed almost cartoonish bottom. Not every female in the entertainment has a naturally large amount of junk in their trunk. In the last few years we have seen butt injections; silicone is injected into the gluteus to make ones bottom bigger their and hips appear wider. Both of these seem like extreme measures considering the health risks and the fact that it is not done as a cosmetic surgery to help one live a fuller life. In most cases it is done for body image issues and because there seems to be a trend in how much plastic surgery one can get. Lets put all this aside for a second and talk about an even more extreme surgery that women as young as 18 are having done its called a Labiaplasty. Some other terms used to describe this procedure are: labia minor reduction, labia reduction, or labioplasty.

A Labioplasty is: the removal of the labia majora or minora which are the folds of skin surrounding the vagina. Sometimes this is done due to damage of the labia, labia that are too long and cause discomfort. Some people do it for cosmetic purposes to make the vulva look cleaner, smaller, more attractive, and to make ones vagina appear tight and not loose. Below is a diagram of the female sex organ so you can see what where these structures are located.




This procedure has become a common way for women to feel younger, give the impression that they are sexually pure, and to look more normal. Where have these ideas come from? Why are women so willing to mutilate their body when they are perfectly natural? Why do doctors perform this surgery if it is not needed? All of these questions have endless answers but I will address the ones I think are important points and leave the rest open for discussion.

Women often don't have many resources to learn about their body. Often they learn about themselves from others, from men, or from what they see in various forms of media. Its not every day that women get together and discuss their sex organs like boys often do when they are first learning about their sex organs. Women don't have books to show them that every vulva is different. We are often told our genitals are ugly and not clean. All of this negative feed back is bound to create a negative association with one's genitals. Not many women have taken the time to explore with a mirror their genitals or share with their female friends, making for more mystery for what should be between one's legs.

Media: Most often women see other women's sex organs in pornography. While pornography can be fun, new, exciting, educational in some way, and arousing; It is an over glamorized depiction of the human body and sex in general. Women in porn are often potrayed as the perfect women in every way. It perpetuates that all women are the same down to what their genitals look like. Next time you watch an adult film notice that the women all have vaginas that look similar. They are small, their lips (labia) are exactly the same, their vaginas are bright pink from coloring procedures, and their anus is also bleached. These images we see are not representative of all women of various sizes and color. Below are various pictures taken from adult sites. Notices how they all look the same, but they are all different people.







The idea of a tight girl: the idea that if your vagina is loose= you are easy is also another contributing factor to this being a popular cosmetic surgery. What people don't realize is the labia do not determine the tightness of a woman's vagina. Labia come in all sizes, shapes, lengths and color; no woman shares the same vulva they are all different in some way. On labia may be longer than the other, they both may hang low, they may both be small, the inner lips may be bigger than the outer, but that does not make your vagina inadequate in any way. Tightness is also associated with being easy or how many guys you have had sex with. Some men and think that because your labia look a certain way they can determine if they are number one to have sex with you or number 500; almost always their predictions are wrong.

Why the labia are so great: Labia have many purposes and are made they way they are to serve some purpose. When you have intercourse or PV (penis-vagina) sex the friction from the labia can be quite arousing for your partner. Also the movement of the labia indirectly stimulates the clitoris because the clitoral hood is connected to the inner labia when the lips move it moves the clitoral hood stimulating the clitoris. The outer labia have nerves that are directly connected to the clitoris also so stimulation of the labia also stimulates the clitoris. Lastly, your labia make your vulva unique, it is a part of you love it own it accept them. But know that no two women are the same. Here are some pictures of vulvas in their variety.









So love your flower because it is yours and it is beautiful.

The following is a great resource for women to find books that show women's vaginas in their variety. Also, there is a link to their facebook page: I Love My Petals

The Petals website/book ordering: https://nickkarras.com/ILoveMyPetals.html

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Did You Know?

I hope that this did you know will be fun, informative, and useable. Enjoy!

Penises come in many lengths, widths, girth, angle, and firmness. The average erect penis size is between five and seven inches. Though some people can have a larger or smaller penis. It can curve up, down, to the left or right.

Plastic wrap can be used instead of dental dams when having oral sex with a female (cunnilingus) or oral anal sex (analingus).

For every website that is not sex related there are five porn sites.

About 85% men and 65% women masturbate regularly

The average bra size is 36C

kIssing for a hour and a half burns 150 calories

Stay tuned for more sex facts!

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what shall we discuss next.

Hello all.

I hope that my post have been entertaining and educational for everyone thus far. I would like to take this time to see if anyone has any special request for particular topics they would like to discuss. I know asking random strangers to contact me about something they want to talk/read about related to sex is a difficult task but here I am asking. I want to make sure everyone is included in my topics and that there is something for everyone to read. I will return soon with the latest post soon, but I wanted to let it be known that if there are any questions or comments please do not hesitate to post them or email them to theesexdoc.blogspot@gmail.com. All questions and requests are confidential.

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Orgasms: So Simple yet So Complex

Orgasm: The moment of most intense pleasure during sexual activity.


This little word is such a big topic especially in popular culture. From G-spot stimulation to men having multiple orgasms there are books, movies, and websites that give you the step by step to having an orgasm. Its rare that people know what causes an orgasm, what it is or how it works. As a sexologist I am often asked "how do I know if I am having an orgasm". This easily answered for men, and harder for women as ladies do not have any spunk to go with the sexual release, though men do not have to ejaculate to have an orgasm. Before I explain an orgasm and how it works let me say: whatever your orgasm is enjoy it every orgasm is different; everyone experience's orgasms differently. The goal of this post is to give you a basic understanding of what causes orgasms and the things that occur in your body before orgasm. Part of being sexually healthy is knowing how your body works sexually.


There are four stages to orgasm that were first discovered by Masters and Johnson, they coined this the Human Sexual Response Cycle (SRC). This cycle consists of four stages: excitement/arousal, plateau, orgasm, and resolution; each stage builds upon each other.


During the excitement/ arousal stage the person becomes aroused by something, and your body starts to show physical signs of you becoming aroused. In this stage erection/ vaginal lubrication occurs. Muscle tension also begins at this stage. Both men and women experience nipple erections. Women's breast get fuller and the vagina expands. Your heart rate increases and more blood flows to your genitals. This is usually happening during kissing, touching, watching adult films, cuddling, etc..

Next comes plateau which occurs until sufficient amount of stimulation has occurred to cause orgasm. In phase two everything that occurred in the previous phase is still happening. Additionally, the vagina turns a deep purple color, and the testicles move closer to the body. The head of the penis and the head of the clitoris become extremely sensitive. Muscle tension and breathing increase. When women are pre-orgasmic they are often stuck in this phase, for they do not have enough stimulation or they are not relaxed enough to continue to the next stage.

Orgasm, the one we have all been waiting for, is a release of all the tension that has been built in the body. lasting only a few seconds This released is characterized by a feeling of greatness, relief, bliss, intense pleasure, some feel they have lost control or they have blacked out. There are about 8-15 rhythmic contractions at the lower third of the vagina and about 3-7 rhythmic contractions at the base of the penis. Kegel exercises can make these contractions more intense and more pleasurable. The man releases semen at orgasm and some women squirt or dribble a fluid from the urethra opening during orgasm. One may experience the need to grip or hold tight to something. Foot spasms and involuntary muscle contractions occur. Lastly, sex flush occurs on the chest and cheeks. This is a pinkish tint, more noticeable the lighter your skin, that appears on ones chest and cheeks. Sometimes sex flush looks like a rash on the persons body but disappears within five minutes.

Lastly, the rest period called resolution. For men this is the period lasting from a few minutes to a few days. During which time a man can not get and or maintain an erection. This is known known as the refractory period. For women the clitoris may be extremely and in some cases unbearably sensitive. There is an increased feeling of intimacy, a general well-being feeling, and in most cases fatigue.Women and men who are multi-orgasmic have little to no resolution phase; they fluctuate between the plateau and orgasm phase.

I hope that this will help you identify different states of arousal and orgasm. Also, knowing how your orgasm works can help you have better orgasms or even become orgasmic. Its important to relax and enjoy whatever good sensations you are having. Remember everyone experience orgasm different but the physical manifestations are the same. Everyone goes through the same phases though the time spent at each state may be different from person to person. Next time you are getting it on, however gets you going best, try to see if you notice what stage you are in.

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Dr. B's Intro Course to Sex Positions

Someone asked that I do an installment on sex positions. One would think this would be an easy task for a sex doc, but in actuality, there are so many positions available it was very difficult to pick and choose which positions I would write about. Interest in sex positions have dated back to before the 1800's and some of the oldest manuals on sex positions date back to "The Karma Sutra" and "Japanese Pillow Books" both were manuals on various sex positions. Most, if not all, positions have been duplicated in more current replications of sex manuals. Some of which are calenders that have a sex position for every day of the year, astrological sex positions, marriage manuals, and books that show you how to duplicate being a porn star. I could write a whole book on the variations of sex positions and what the popular one's are, but I have decided to make this a bit more educational. By the end of this read I hope that you will learn about positions that can help enhance ones sexual experience/enjoyment. Please note I will explain the positions and how they work during PV (Penis-Vagina, Heterosexual) sex, but in most cases they can be modified to your sexual preference.



Everyone Knows Missionary: For most people this position is common, at least 75% of the population have sex in this position. Missionary is when the woman lies on her back and the men lies on top of her. In this position the woman has less control of how deep the penetration is, the man has most of the control. I would not recommend this pose for women who enjoy/require more direct clitoral stimulation, but little stimulation is provided by rubbing/bumping of pelvises. Some people find this position boring; so to beef it up I recommend using a sex cushion under the pelvic to change the angle to your liking. Recession tip: a pillow or two works just as well. While this is a very basic position, it makes men orgasm (cum, ejaculate) quicker. This happens because there is more pelvic thrusting which increases tension in the muscles building sexual tension quicker than which occurs when there is less thrusting. Men who wish to hold off their orgasm or men who have premature ejaculation concerns should consider this before deciding on this position.



Ladies, though more work is required the best position to achieve maximal clitoral stimulation, control of penetration, and speed is the woman on top position. Because you and your partner have direct access to the clitoris you/your partner are able to use as little or as much stimulation as desired. Your parter can also help should you get tiered by helping lift and lower you during sex.


The Scissors is a great position for people who enjoy closeness, kissing, or being face to face with their partner during sex. The woman lies on her side and lifts one leg. Next the man lies on his side facing his partner and places his self sideway between her legs. The lady can wrap her legs around the partner's back or hold them straight out behind the partner's back. Both partners then move as they thrust in and out like scissors opening and closing. This position can be challenging at times but it provides excellent g-spot stimulation for the woman.



Kneeling Lotus (please note if you have any knee injuries this may not be the one for you; you may blow your load and knee out at the same time) is another good position for g-spot stimulation, while at the same time the angle of the penis may make for quicker orgasm. In this position the man is on his legs, knees bended. The woman then straddles her partner exactly like the woman on top position. You can wrap your arms around each if you would like. Again, this position does provide little clitoral stimulation but direct access to the clitoris is obstructed.


Doggy Style can be fun for both partners and can be done standing, on all fours or half and half. Traditionally the woman is on all fours ( hands and knees). The man gets on his knees and penetrates his partner from the back, vaginally or anally whichever you prefer, he can place his hands on her waist, breast, or shoulders to pull his partner in as he thrusts. He can also reach down to stimulate the clitoris. Variations: the woman can stimulate her clitoris, she can tug or rub the testicles, or massage the peranieum (the area of skin just behind the testicles but in front of the anus). Also she can put a pillow or a few under her upper body to change the angle of penetration. For a downward penetration lower down to rest on your knees and forearms.



69: this is more than just the Cancer zodiac representation; its a give give sex position. Either the man or the woman can lie on their back. the partner gets on top with their face facing their partners genitals. The couple then performs oral sex on each other at the same time.



DP: For some people find during sex "the more the merrier". If thats you the Double Penetration (DP) is the position for you. This requires three participants, two men a woman (other variations are: three men, three women, two women and one man). This position is a combination of doggy style and woman on top. One man lies on his back then the woman straddles him, his penis penetrating her vagina. The woman leans slightly forward and the other male then penetrates her anally in doggy style position. the woman moves up and down and both men can thrust as well.


In addition to cleverly named positions; you can incorporate office or household furniture, stand, or do it against the wall. Also, these and many other positions can be done with a sex swing either bolted in or one that can be installed and uninstalled. Remember theres always the kitchen counter, the bathroom tile, perhaps a sturdy chair. When it comes to sex positions the sky is the limit.

These positions and more are available in books, online, or via email at theesexdoc.blogspot@gmail.com

Resources: Some great books are available for various sex positions from in the bath to in the bed ranging from beginner to advanced

The Little Book of Wild Sex Positions by: Siobhan Kelly

The Anal Sex Position Guide:The Best Positions for Easy, Exciting, Mind-Blowing Pleasure by: Tristan Taormino

Ride Em' Cowgirl by: Dr. Sadie Allison

Remember: Stretch before you start.

show me your boobies. The latest trend in instant messaging

A friend told me about a site that has live face to face internet chatting. Kinda like AIM but new and improved. This site offers live face to face chatting and option to type though people can hear you and you can hear them. It is a free site and you are randomly connected with people all over the world. At times there are lots of people exposing their penis or jacking off or something to arouse them. At times there are people there just to chat with others. On my first encounters the common thing was boobies: flash your boobs, we want boobs, boobs or the kitten dies. etc. Women on this site seem to be scarce and when someone gets the chance, both men and women, come up with creative ways to attempt to get you to flash them. So, I thought I would see how many people I could get to flash me for my blog.

The Plan: I signed on for a day at random hours to see if people only did this at night however, flashing proposals are not restricted to time. So I got on. It was boobies or the next button. Sign On. Person one was already naked so I got free boobies no work required.

NUMBER 3 from Indiana "Corn Belt Baby". Turns out he was a willing participant in my boobies for blog adventure and he was the first male to flash me. Within the hour I was up to five and even got more than a boobie flash here and there.

930PM my day-time attempts proved quite successful and there were both male and female willing participants. I realized why the first thing people say on this site is boobies because that seemed to be the universal hello on chatroullete, and everyone shows them. But by night fall boobies were much harder to come by.. NOW people weren't willing to flash me if i didn't flash them; they at least wanted something in return. Ironically I experienced my first tit for tat so to speak with mr "Girl Olympics" on his screen he had a white board that read BRA =5; Booty=1; Boobs=1, he was taking tallies of what he got for the night. So I said to him "boobies for my blog please". His response was "I asked first". Their were a few moments of bartering and he though I would be sold on his last offer; If i showed him my bra he would do the chicken dance butt naked. I never realized how hot of a commodity breast are; not just in the U.S..

Mr. Nebraska.. i asked him to flash me and he responded "show me yours". I told him my boobs weren't to nice in an attempt to get him to flash me and he said "boobs are boobs". Mr. Nebraska you truly are a boob man.



So what have I learned?
Chatroullette is a great site for flashing and being flashed. You can have a conversation with people here and there or while flashing each other. This is a great site for people who are looking for someone to play-have sexual encounters or arousing experiences- with people from all over the world form various backgrounds. Some guys thought my proposal was great and they gave me chest, some guys though I was a chubby chaser, some women thought I was a lesbian, some wanted to give me a whole show beyond the boobies, the list goes on. Be prepared to see nudity, moments of explicit sex acts, moments of calmness, and moments of confusion. If you are a voyeur or exhibitionist this is the site for you. The best hours to get boobies quickly more often from women is early in the morning pacific standard time. By evening/night time people are looking to play, so if you just want to check it out, am is best.

What are people interested in talking/learning about?

Hello Everyone

Welcome to The Sex Doc's Blogspot.

This will be my first ever attempts to blog, so as I get acquainted with how blogging works I would like to know what are people interested in talking about. BDSM, Vanilla sex, Electrical Play, Making Safe Sex Sexy, LGBTQ topics, Sex Positions, Random Sex Facts, Sex Toys, Pornography, Erotic Books, or something I have not listed here.

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